Sunday, 29 November 2015

Confession of an introvert...



Today I am going to continue my whining streak, by updating another post where I complain about my current life. If you read my last posts, you would be knowing that I have joined my first job on 16th. The people are good and very co-operative in my workplace. Even my colleagues are really friendly and fun-loving, with no sign of arrogance or ego (yet!). After reading this, you would definitely like to ask me that why I am creating a big drama and constantly whining about this new phase of life. And my answer is, I am an introvert!

 


Okay, now if you go through the definition of this word through a dictionary, you will come across words such as keeping to themselves, quiet, shy etc. Today I would to like to present how it feels to be an introvert and how hard things are for us at times. There are many misconception about us and I want to clarify them, by giving reference to my scenario.
People often say that introverts don’t talk much or keep to themselves, because they lack communication skills. To be honest, most of them are really confident people and they don’t lack any skills to communicate. We know a lot of them as great leaders also. The thing is that, we are mostly preoccupied with our thoughts and imagination. It’s kind of our own imaginary world in which we are busy and thus we forget to interact with others!!  We have a group of 36 people in my learning group, abbreviated as L.G. So while everyone was busy interacting with each other, I could only talk the guys and girls sitting around me, as I was busy with my own world most of the times. On the second day, I was asked this expected question from L.G mates, “why are you so silent?”

Now as we are engrossed in our own thoughts, and as we are usually silent, we may come across as rude person. Not even that, you would be accused of being snobbish and arrogant and what not. And all this while, you would be thinking that how well-mannered I am as I am giving everyone their personal space!!

Don’t think that introverts are not chatty or talkative! When we get comfortable around someone then there is no way we are going to shut up!

Another thing which I have heard a lot about introverts is that, we don’t know how to have fun. And on my defence, I would like to say that the definition of fun may vary from people to people! Fun doesn’t mean you have to go to a pub, get drunk and dance wildly! Fun can also mean, shut off your cell phone, make your favourite coffee and sit with your favourite novel! Most of you may call it boring, but then again, it is my idea of fun!

Introverts are also not lonely people. They may have only a small group of friends, but they are not lonely people. We love the “alone” time though. Every day, I need some “me” time. Here I want to emphasize the difference between being alone and being lonely. I don’t know about others, but I choose to remain alone at times so that all that millions thoughts which constantly race through my mind, get some time of their own. It kind of soothes me.

The mates in my L.G are quite jovial and fun loving, and me as an introvert, is having a tough time dealing with that. It is not that I am rebuffing their warm gestures, but I am also not too comfortable with it. But this time I have decided to do what is not expected from me. I am saying yes to group dinners or group hangout. I want to come out of the shell, in which I have limited myself. Even I want to live that crazy wild life of extrovert once!

 While people always complain to have bad colleague, here I am complaining about having friendly colleague. I guess a man can never be happy!

With all this revamping going on in my personality, I can surely tell that I will never become an extrovert but I can surely qualify in being called an ambivert!
Finally,
Three cheers for introverts!
It is because of us, that you extroverts are called fun people!

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