Today I am going to continue my whining streak, by updating
another post where I complain about my current life. If you read my last posts,
you would be knowing that I have joined my first job on 16th. The
people are good and very co-operative in my workplace. Even my colleagues are
really friendly and fun-loving, with no sign of arrogance or ego (yet!). After
reading this, you would definitely like to ask me that why I am creating a big
drama and constantly whining about this new phase of life. And my answer is, I
am an introvert!
Okay, now if you go through the definition of this word
through a dictionary, you will come across words such as keeping to themselves,
quiet, shy etc. Today I would to like to present how it feels to be an
introvert and how hard things are for us at times. There are many misconception
about us and I want to clarify them, by giving reference to my scenario.
People often say that introverts don’t talk much or keep to
themselves, because they lack communication skills. To be honest, most of them
are really confident people and they don’t lack any skills to communicate. We
know a lot of them as great leaders also. The thing is that, we are mostly
preoccupied with our thoughts and imagination. It’s kind of our own imaginary
world in which we are busy and thus we forget to interact with others!! We have a group of 36 people in my learning
group, abbreviated as L.G. So while everyone was busy interacting with each
other, I could only talk the guys and girls sitting around me, as I was busy
with my own world most of the times. On the second day, I was asked this
expected question from L.G mates, “why are you so silent?”
Now as we are engrossed in our own thoughts, and as we are
usually silent, we may come across as rude person. Not even that, you would be
accused of being snobbish and arrogant and what not. And all this while, you
would be thinking that how well-mannered I am as I am giving everyone their
personal space!!
Don’t think that introverts are not chatty or talkative!
When we get comfortable around someone then there is no way we are going to
shut up!
Another thing which I have heard a lot about introverts is
that, we don’t know how to have fun. And on my defence, I would like to say
that the definition of fun may vary from people to people! Fun doesn’t mean you
have to go to a pub, get drunk and dance wildly! Fun can also mean, shut off
your cell phone, make your favourite coffee and sit with your favourite novel!
Most of you may call it boring, but then again, it is my idea of fun!
Introverts are also not lonely people. They may have only a
small group of friends, but they are not lonely people. We love the “alone”
time though. Every day, I need some “me” time. Here I want to emphasize the
difference between being alone and being lonely. I don’t know about others, but
I choose to remain alone at times so that all that millions thoughts which
constantly race through my mind, get some time of their own. It kind of soothes
me.
The mates in my L.G are quite jovial and fun loving, and me
as an introvert, is having a tough time dealing with that. It is not that I am rebuffing
their warm gestures, but I am also not too comfortable with it. But this time I
have decided to do what is not expected from me. I am saying yes to group
dinners or group hangout. I want to come out of the shell, in which I have
limited myself. Even I want to live that crazy wild life of extrovert once!
While people always
complain to have bad colleague, here I am complaining about having friendly colleague.
I guess a man can never be happy!
With all this revamping going on in my personality, I can
surely tell that I will never become an extrovert but I can surely qualify in
being called an ambivert!
Finally,
Three cheers for introverts!
It is because of us, that you extroverts are called fun people!
