Why it is nice to meet strangers:

How many times have this happened with you?

You are in a conversation with a member of your family or a friend and they start telling you one of their experiences....

When someone uses this word :”Stranger”, a kind of negative image surfaces in the mind of the listener. There is a pre-conceived notion that strangers are bad, thug, psychopath, serial killer, stalker, cons and what not! We thus forget the fact that even we are stranger for lot of people in this world. They are just like us, a small entity in this big universe.

My today’s discussion would be about meeting strangers and why I like doing that.

As I have said that I identify myself as an introvert, it is usually hard for me to break the ice and start a conversation with a stranger. But I always like doing it. I have this theory... that when you meet someone who has zero knowledge about your past, you are like this fresh page in a notebook. Completely blank! You get a chance to portray yourself like you want to do. No fear, no inhibition! You can use any colour you want to paint yourself with.

Now when I told this idea to one of my friend, she replied by saying,” Oh you mean disguising as someone else “. This is quite a valid argument. You can also deceive the person sitting in front of you or even you can be conned by the stranger, but let us look into the brighter perspective of this idea.

Suppose you were a shy, bullied or lonely person in your previous place, like school, college or even a new job! So now you have this whole new opportunity to completely revamp your life and lead it completely different from the previous one you were having. Isn’t that great though? No extra baggage from the past and you get to start afresh! And who helps you live this life? The very same strangers! In this whole roller coaster ride, we meet some strangers who later become our life partner, friend or BFFS! Thus it is always nice to meet strangers.

While I write this article, I am pondering over the fact what adventure waits for me in this completely new city. But for now let me begin the chapter of Pune 1.0.

So while I got teary eyed while leaving Gandhinagar, I am trying to embrace Pune with the same zeal I embraced the former city! Let’s see happens next!

The “new year-new me” faux pas:

Happy new year everyone!

Here’s wishing you all one more of year health, happiness and success!  Was that a boring wish? Okay.....Let me try again! Here’s wishing you one more year of booze, orgasm and free food coupons!  

You may think that why am I wishing on 3^rd of Jan? ... Well, I wanted the euphoria of the new year to be settled down and wanted you all back in the normal phase....( I mean the phase which you were in last week  :P )

Every New Year we want some changes around us, because apparently just the change of calendar doesn’t suffice our necessity! So we get highly motivated and pledge to ourselves that the coming year is going to drastically different for us. We not only pledge to ourselves but make our desires public! And that is the worst mistake which we tend to commit. Yup, you get it, I am talking about the “new year-new me” blunder.

We have hopes and we have dreams.

Someone want six packs (of abs, not beer), someone wants to be 10 pointer in college and someone want to update their blog daily (  L ). It’s good to have dreams and aspirations but embedding that dreams with the New Year’s resolution, is the worst thing that you could possibly do. Let me be a little straight forward here.... Most resolutions last maximum till one month. Then we all return to our same old practises. There can be tons of reason for that! But most of the time we quit! But having a resolution and then quitting it, is not that a bad thing, But declaring your resolutions like national news headlines to everyone, is a bad practise to do.

It is because we are surrounded with people who would like to make fun of your failure than support you in fulfilling your dreams. Very few people would be there in your life who will keep on motivating you! So my dear readers, please don’t unveil your plans for the coming year to everyone easily.

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OH! And one more thing... if you fail to follow the resolution that you had made.. Then please don’t wait till the next year to follow it. Just have strong determination, and then collect all the broken pieces and start once again! What’s the worst that could happen? You will fail? No issues... you can try again and again!  Please don’t give up...

So, from this time, make sure to tell yourself “new me or better me”, but just do that every day instead of every New Year!

Have a great year ahead J ! 

It is year-end already?!

And I am actually asking this question ... where did the year 2k15 go away? Its like years have stolen shoes from Usain Bolt and are in race with each other to see who finishes first!

Okay that maybe an exaggerated analogy... but my today’s topic is going to revolve around the year end.

I still remember the day when I jotted down the last blog entry for the year 2014. It was about New Year and nostalgia. But I am not feeling nostalgic this time. In fact, I am having a hard time in digesting the fact that year 2015 is about to end. Year end is always special for me, as I look forward for some sort of new start, every year! And this fact is eating me up.

I don’t have that special excitement in me anymore. But is the reason behind my dullness is that  I don’t have anything to look forward the coming year? Wrong! Next year is going to be really crucial as I am going to move to a new city.

So, does that mean year-end has no significance for me anymore?

Maybe! Well, to be honest, it is just the change of date and calendar. The first two months will simply pass wishing each other “happy new year” (even though we don’t mean it) and then the monotony will continue. Of course, we all are going to commit the mistake like this  “20156“ or the artistic one are going to overwrite the 5 with 6. Oh and how can I forgot the habit of checking out number of holidays we will be getting this year (btw 2016 has many long weekends). And please don’t get me started over resolution.

That is it! Nothing else! Then why do we all go gaga over new years? Is it because of holidays? New Year’s party? Hope of getting lucky when the clock struck 12 during new year’s night?(yup, I am a rom-com fan).

I guess I am slowly entering the mundane adult life, where there is no much hope left and even New Year means just the change of calendar! But then, while writing this whiny post, I have decided that I am not going to lose to my lethargic and complaining nature! I have to revamp myself and thus be more optimistic. Somehow I got my lost passion back, just with this little introspection.

New Year  remains charming as ever!

Dear Santa!

Dear Santa,

Here is the list of things I really want for Christmas!

·        Good health for my near and dear one (including myself!).

·        Inner peace for everyone who needs it.

·        Every person in this world should get the gift of expressing empathy.

·        Less interaction with gadget and more with people!

·        Eradication of hunger.

·        End of various wars.

·        Smile over everyone’s face!

So here’s my list...I know you would be thinking that I am being “Mr. Horribly Good”. But let me tell you one thing, I could have easily jotted down few things like a Ferrari or I-phone and what not. Obviously those things would have been materialistic. First of all, being materialistic in the world is not an issue, even I am! But never on Christmas!

For me, Christmas is all about giving to the needy and miracles! Those things which I want could be bought in near future if I really work hard and earn tons of money! But what about giving back to the humanity? If everyone would wish for the above list, I am sure Santa is going to grant them.

I would be waiting this Christmas, for Rudolf to drag that sleigh so that Santa can make my wish come true! And I really hope it will come true because it’s Christmas and miracles are always waiting to happen!

Dear readers, I wish you all a merry Christmas and happy holidays! Hope the coming year brings all the joy in the world for you!

Confession of an introvert...

Today I am going to continue my whining streak, by updating another post where I complain about my current life. If you read my last posts, you would be knowing that I have joined my first job on 16^th. The people are good and very co-operative in my workplace. Even my colleagues are really friendly and fun-loving, with no sign of arrogance or ego (yet!). After reading this, you would definitely like to ask me that why I am creating a big drama and constantly whining about this new phase of life. And my answer is, I am an introvert!

 

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Okay, now if you go through the definition of this word through a dictionary, you will come across words such as keeping to themselves, quiet, shy etc. Today I would to like to present how it feels to be an introvert and how hard things are for us at times. There are many misconception about us and I want to clarify them, by giving reference to my scenario.

People often say that introverts don’t talk much or keep to themselves, because they lack communication skills. To be honest, most of them are really confident people and they don’t lack any skills to communicate. We know a lot of them as great leaders also. The thing is that, we are mostly preoccupied with our thoughts and imagination. It’s kind of our own imaginary world in which we are busy and thus we forget to interact with others!!  We have a group of 36 people in my learning group, abbreviated as L.G. So while everyone was busy interacting with each other, I could only talk the guys and girls sitting around me, as I was busy with my own world most of the times. On the second day, I was asked this expected question from L.G mates, “why are you so silent?”

Now as we are engrossed in our own thoughts, and as we are usually silent, we may come across as rude person. Not even that, you would be accused of being snobbish and arrogant and what not. And all this while, you would be thinking that how well-mannered I am as I am giving everyone their personal space!!

Don’t think that introverts are not chatty or talkative! When we get comfortable around someone then there is no way we are going to shut up!

Another thing which I have heard a lot about introverts is that, we don’t know how to have fun. And on my defence, I would like to say that the definition of fun may vary from people to people! Fun doesn’t mean you have to go to a pub, get drunk and dance wildly! Fun can also mean, shut off your cell phone, make your favourite coffee and sit with your favourite novel! Most of you may call it boring, but then again, it is my idea of fun!

Introverts are also not lonely people. They may have only a small group of friends, but they are not lonely people. We love the “alone” time though. Every day, I need some “me” time. Here I want to emphasize the difference between being alone and being lonely. I don’t know about others, but I choose to remain alone at times so that all that millions thoughts which constantly race through my mind, get some time of their own. It kind of soothes me.

The mates in my L.G are quite jovial and fun loving, and me as an introvert, is having a tough time dealing with that. It is not that I am rebuffing their warm gestures, but I am also not too comfortable with it. But this time I have decided to do what is not expected from me. I am saying yes to group dinners or group hangout. I want to come out of the shell, in which I have limited myself. Even I want to live that crazy wild life of extrovert once!

 While people always complain to have bad colleague, here I am complaining about having friendly colleague. I guess a man can never be happy!

With all this revamping going on in my personality, I can surely tell that I will never become an extrovert but I can surely qualify in being called an ambivert!

Finally,

Three cheers for introverts!

It is because of us, that you extroverts are called fun people!

23 !

Hello Hello!
So I have turned 23 this week, that was on 17th. First of all a very happy birthday to all of you who celebrated their birthday on 17Th of November! This week was actually very prominent one for me! I joined my first job after graduation. It was a very hectic week. But by the end of the week I'm kind of enjoying this job. The environment was scary in first , but now I have accustomed to the culture. People say that we should love what we do, and it's been only a week and I could say that i'm loving it for now!
But the big thing to happen this week is me turning 23.
I won't lie, but I'm freaking out turning older year by year. I know it sounds very outrageous but I'm seriously acting like Joey from the series F.R.I.E.N.D.S, where he was very upset of turning old. I am the same. But the thing to ponder about is why am I feeling so ?
Am I afraid of loosing my youth? ... No
Am I afraid of the responsibility that comes with the adult life? ... No
But what is it that is eating me up?
I guess I am afraid of loosing the carefree days. I know that my loved one are also growing older as I grow older each other. We all have to leave this land and head for heaven one day, so maybe it's the fear that the day when I loose those loved ones are also approaching.
Let's talk about vanity. Yes! I used to look younger for my age . But in this last 6 months , I have seen significant change in my feature and body weight! People say that I have started looking like an adult, and that came as a shock for me because for past years I have been listening that I look young for my age! So I guess these comments came as a fuel to my ageing worries!
So while I embark on my new journey to responsible,independent and working individual, I keep on sulking for turning 23!
Just answer me one thing, am I overreacting? or is this a phase every early 20 something goes through! Whatever be the answer, the fact remains that I'm 23 :(
Finally,
three cheers for Adult life!

Happy Diwali !! And Happy 1st birthday to my blog !

Today is Diwali!! Happy Diwali people... But wait.. Today is also the first birthday of my blog... I thought a lot that how to celebrate this occasion and then I decided to post a personal message through this video. Yes, I am finally speaking in my blog! So when I was in my traditional attire( cause of diwali) , I arranged my mobile's camera on a never used tripod , and finally after 5 takes , here is my personal message... "TADA"

Thanks again to all of you for being a part of my blogging journey!

Three cheers for the every day me blog!!!